Bunim v. Bunim

On the trial of this divorce suit the wife admitted numerous deliberate adulteries (with a man who was married and had children), attempted to rationalize and justify those adulteries, denied any repentance therefor, committed perjury in swearing to denials in her answer (see Civ. Prac. Act, § 1148), and, as found by both courts below, testified to a deliberately false story as to consent by plaintiff (a reputable and successful physician) to the adulteries. With all that in the record, custody of the two children of the marriage (eleven and thirteen years old at the time of the trial) has been, nonetheless, awarded to defendant.

There is an affirmed finding below that the husband is a fit and proper person to have such custody, and no such finding as to the wife, but a finding that u the interests and welfare of the children, the issue of said marriage, will be best served by awarding the custody to the defendant.” We see in this record no conceivable basis for that latter finding, unless it be the testimony of the two daughters that, though they love their father, they prefer to live with their mother. Unless that attitude of these adolescent girls be controlling as against every other fact and consideration (see, contra, People ex rel. Glendening v. Glendening, 259 App. Div. 384 , affd. 284 N. Y. 598 ), this judgment, insofar as it deals with custody, is unsupported and unsupportable.

Of course, custody of Children is ordinarily a matter of discretion for Special Term and the Appellate Division (see Matter of Welch, 74 N. Y. 299 ; Kruczek v. Kruczek, 264 App. Div. 242 , affd. 289 N. Y. 826 ; Harrington v. Harrington, 290 N. Y. 126 , 130). But that discretion is a judicial discretion, not an uncontrolled one, and its exercise must have sound and substantial basis in the testimony. Therefore, there can be no valid exercise of discretion in a judicial direction which is opposed to everything presented to the court. We hold that there was here such

No decision by any court can restore tbis broken borne or give these children what they need and have a right to — the care and protection of two dutiful parents. No court welcomes such problems, or feels at ease in deciding them. But a decision there must be, and it cannot be one repugnant to all normal concepts of sex, family and marriage. The State of New York has old, strong policies on those subjects, strongly stated by the Legislature (see, for instance, Penal Law, § 100; Civ. Prac. Act, §§ 1147, 1161, 1170; Domestic Relations Law, § 8). Our whole society is based on the absolutely fundamental proposition that: “ Marriage, as creating the most important relation in life,” has “ more to do with the morals and civilization of a people than any other institution ” (Maynard v. Rill, 125 U. S. 190 , 205). Defendant here, in open court, has stated her considered belief in the propriety of indulgence, by a dissatisfied wife such as herself, in extramarital sex experimentation. It cannot be that “ the best interests and welfare ” of those impressionable teen-age girls will be ‘ ‘ best served ’ ’ by awarding their custody to one who proclaims, and lives by, such extraordinary ideas of right conduct.

The judgment should be modified by striking therefrom the provisions thereof dealing with custody and support, and the matter remitted to Special Term for further proceedings not inconsistent with this opinion.

(dissenting). This case involves a problem, as perplexing as any in the field of human relationships, and, while a different result could, of course, have been reached below, I hesitate to stamp as an abuse the discretion exercised by the Special Term judge, and affirmed by four justices of the Appellate Division, only after the most painstaking and conscientious consideration.

Especially in a case such as this, the judge who sees and hears the witnesses, who is face to face with the children and the parents, is in a far better position to make a decision calling for the exercise of discretion than is the appellate judge whose only source of guidance is the cold print, the lifeless pages, of the record. No one can disagree with the statement of high principle

The primary and paramount concern of the trial judge was the welfare and happiness of the children. Would it better serve their interésts and their well-being to place them with their mother or with their father ? Bearing directly on that issue was evidence that the father was inordinately preoccupied with his professional duties; that, as a result, he gave little of Ms time or of himself to the children; and that not infrequently he treated them brusquely, impatiently and even intemperately. Likewise pertinent was proof that the wife was ever a good and devoted mother; that her indiscretions were unknown to the children; that she was deeply devoted to the children and truly concerned with their welfare; and that, for their part, the children returned her affection with an attachment that was, in the language of the trial court, “ almost Biblical ” in its intensity.

With such evidence — and there was more of like import — in the record, the decision at Special Term and the judgment of the Appellate Division awarding custody to the mother cannot be said to be completely beyond the pale of permissible discretion.

I would affirm the judgment. [See 298 N. Y. 923 .]

LoughraN, CM J., Lewis and CoNway, JJ., concur with Des-moNd, J.; FtrLD, J., dissents in opinion in wMch Dye, J., concurs.

Judgment accordingly.